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Disappointed at work? Here are six ways to cope!


Even the best of managers aren't immune to their fair share of disappointments in the office. Unexpected market changes, corporate decisions, or just plain old disagreements with our own managers, can all create situations where we are disappointed at work.


Maybe we were expecting a promotion which gets put on hold due to uncertainty in the market. Perhaps we had an idea for an “incredible” project, but management doesn’t feel the same way. It could be as simple as fighting for a raise for an employee but not having enough budget to push it through. How we handle these disappointments as managers sends an important message to our staff, colleagues, and our own managers.


So here are 6 ways to handle disappointment at work.

1. Don’t take it too personally. This doesn’t mean don’t not care about it, but there is a fine line between caring about a project which was shelved and thinking your world is about to end. Take setbacks in stride and use them as an opportunity for self-growth.

2. Don’t give up. This doesn’t mean you need to be obsessive but ask the relevant party when the appropriate time would be to re-valuate the proposal.

3. Vent in private, not public. Like all normal people, managers have feelings. But recognize that there is a proper time and place to share those feelings. Storming into the break room and informing everyone in earshot that your manager is being shortsighted and pigheaded by not allowing your project to proceed isn’t an effective way of advancing your agenda. (or your career!)

4. Reflect your disappointment back to your manager. Explain your position, why you are disappointed, and what are some of the potential ramifications of the decision that they might not have considered. (obviously not in a threatening manner)

5. Think about your next move. Are you handing in your resignation because you didn’t get your promotion? Perhaps that’s the right decision but don’t do something too impulsive becuase you may come to regret your decision.

6. Put it behind you. Do your best not too carry too much negativity with you moving forward. Not being able to let go when something doesn't go your way might be a sign of immaturity and could be the work of your ego.

Often what separates a manager from an employee is the behavior displayed exactly at the moments like these. So don't let your emotions get the best of you when something doesn't go exactly your way!


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